Why Me?

When something bad happens to you, you may find yourself asking over and over again, why me? And it can lead to periods of feeling sorry for yourself - the “woe-is-me” of it all. And I get it, many of us have been there. But it is often a waste of precious mental energy, keeping you stuck in a loop that detracts from your ability to heal and grow. The harsh reality is that this bad thing has happened, it’s in the past now, and you can’t change it. But what can change or shift is how you view and understand it. Rather than see the experience as merely bleak or something that has only taken from you, which can make you feel small and powerless, can you also see what can be gained? This is not to dismiss or diminish your lived truth and the pain and sorrow that may accompany it, which is valid and important as well. But if that is all you walk away with, it can leave you feeling stuck in a rut or even feeling empty. Instead, it can also be an opportunity to learn, evolve and grow. This can help you to feel more empowered, moving through and beyond the pain (and the situation). So, the next time you feel as though something bad has happened to you, try to also ask yourself these questions: "How can I take back my power? What is here for me to learn or to better understand? What is the lesson?" You might be surprised as to what you can discover and carry with you as you move forward on this mysterious journey we call life.